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How I've Cheated on My Wife

How I've Cheated on My Wife

By Wisdom Moon on February 14, 2012

It may be hard to believe, but many pastors, including worship pastors, cheat on their wives. The woman entices the pastor with attraction, affection, and attention. The woman is very attractive to the pastor’s eyes. She is very affectionate towards him, especially when his wife is not around.  She gives him a lot of attention and demands a lot of his attention.

Her name is Ministry.

I know from personal experience that it is extremely easy to devote much of your time during the week to Ministry, and neglect your wife. Most of us that feel called by God to ministry are passionately in love with Ministry. She gets us excited! If you’re married, you need to be careful that she does not become your idol or your passion that comes before God or your wife.

A Christian leader once told me that if you do God’s work, He will take care of your family. In essence, what they are saying is put Ministry first and foremost and your wife can get whatever is left over. She’s in God’s hands because you’re doing His work, so don’t worry about her.

Ministry does not come first. Your relationship with God comes first and foremost. Then, your relationship with your wife, whom He has called you to love and cherish. Then, your kids (if you have any). Then, ministry.

Don’t let Ministry distract you from your primary calling. I am not here to judge anyone, but to challenge all of us. I would be the first to admit that I get it wrong often.

I work for a parachurch ministry full-time, manage and oversee everything that goes on with All About Worship & The Songwriter’s Café, provide marketing/social media consulting for Christian companies and artists, write songs, AND serve as a volunteer worship leader/guitarist at my church.

I gotta be honest, it’s an everyday challenge trying to balance it all and at the same time not neglect my wife and kids…making sure I am giving them my time and attention. I’ve learned, and am still learning, that I have to say “NO” to 99.99% of ministry opportunities that present themselves.

I’m learning that I can’t reply to every email, text, and Facebook message that demands my attention. That would completely consume my time. I have to say “NO” to many good, ministry-related things so that I can say “YES” to my wife. And, I can say “YES” to my 3 little ones when they ask me to play hide-and-seek with them.

What does this look like in YOUR life?

-Wisdom Moon

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Wisdom Moon

Wisdom is a husband, father, worship leader, songwriter, and Founder/CEO of All About Worship. He was born in South Korea, but spent most of his life in Silicon Valley (California), and currently resides in Nashville, TN with his wife and three kids. Wisdom has been involved in worship ministry for over 20 years. For more about Wisdom, visit WisdomMoon.com